Over the last few years there has been many changes in our lifestyles, many of whom have had to deal with financial setbacks, thus having to adjust their budgets. Changes in relationships, career changes, but none so important as changing our thoughts and perceptions around all these changes

Some will embrace change as a form of learning and growth whilst others will fight it, holding onto the belief that they already know the outcome so they have a need to try to control it.

Those of us that have been making changes already understand that it was only our thoughts that needed to change, and the physical aspects just followed suit.

Change is the only constant in our life so to fight it only seems to be a fruitless exercise that could be less exhausting and stressful if we only learn to accept it.

Not all change looks like a lottery win to us, in fact, sometimes it appears to be quite negative. If we allow ourselves the flexibility and patience to see the story unfold, we may see the real gift later down the track.

If we surrender to the prospect that we are only seeing a small glimpse of the story, isn’t it better to stay open to the fact that the ending can have many options, some of which we would never have dreamed possible?
We are all familiar with some story of a seemingly negative event that turns out to have a positive outcome in the end. Hence the saying, we need to break a few eggs to make an omelette.

Sometimes it’s that change, the very thing that installs fear into us, is the spearhead that catapults us on a new and exciting ride to the next stage of our life. 

So the next time life throws us a curveball in the form of a change in our life, then my challenge is to welcome it, breathe and surrender any preconceived judgements we may have surrounding it. It is neither good nor bad. It just is.   So while we are sitting with the situation, allow clarity and calm to creep into our mind so that the next chain of thoughts won’t be based on fear, but fact.

Now, for anyone that has been living in the now, letting go of controlling events in their life, accepting and surrendering to daily challenges, taking action only when the feeling is strong and feeling a little impatient that life has appeared to have gone stagnant, please don’t despair.

As with planting a garden, it takes time to prepare the soil, plant the seed, fertilise the plant and then water it. A lot of the growth is happening under the surface where we cannot see it, but rest assured, it is growing and soon the fruits of our efforts and patience will be evident. It will start to push through the surface until it flourishes and blooms.

So too will our life with the right preparation, solid foundations and patience.

Hopefully we will take the time to understand the lessons that the universe is thrusting our way as opportunities rather than challenges and know that we are never given anything more than we can handle.

Change is often the Wakeup call we needed while we were sleep walking through our lives.

If we want to change our lives……Change our Perception

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With the new decade now upon us, what better time to clean up our thoughts, clear up some old past baggage we have been harbouring and manifest the new desires we have yearned for.

A Blue moon is the occurrence of two full moons in one calendar month.  The term was given because of the phrase, Once in a Blue Moon, being the reference that this is not the norm.

A new moon is thought to have been the time to manifest our desires into our lives whilst the full moon was the ideal time to release any unwanted beliefs, grudges, and thoughts that we believed no longer served us.

The blue moon was a perfect opportunity to harness the magnificent energy of this as a symbolic tool to bring both manifestation and releasing into the same ritual.

It was suggested to me that a template of a circle drawn on a piece of paper with all that you are wanting to release from your life on the outside of the circle, whilst all your desires for yourself, family, loved ones and the planet to be written on the inside of the circle. Then to burn this paper and the ashes of our written word will be sent to the universe.  Perhaps a bit like the Santa wish list but a little more thought provoking.

Now if we were unaware of the blue moon and its power and think that we have a missed an opportunity, do not despair.

Whether or not you use the moon or crystals or prayer or meditation as a tool to bring about change in our life, the real power that allows these changes to occur is our own thoughts and beliefs that we have 24/7 access to.

Just as some people resonate with audio, visual, kinaesthetic or a mixture of all, some people need to have their rituals to ‘seal the deal’, so to speak

There is no doubt that the moon can have an effect on people, we only have to check in with proprietors of late night trading and the police to confirm that.

It can also be very calming and soothing to some people, whilst others will attest to lack of sleep even though they have been unaware of the moons status.

What I am saying is the biggest tool you have in our bag of tricks for a life you desire is our own thoughts.

Many books are available now referencing this.  The likes of The Secret and Law of Attraction have many wonderful and thought provoking theories that are definitely worth exploring.

When we can at least entertain the idea of how powerful our minds are, we can truly tap into our own power. We all know the power of placebos and we have probably all experienced having a bad day and the more we talked about it to others the worse it got.

Our thoughts grow momentum when they are given attention, so the old saying of be careful what you wish for becomes a force to be reckoned with. So if our thoughts can manifest reality, now would be an ideal time to check what we are really saying to ourself and our family and associates on a daily basis and try to attain whether or not our life is taking a positive or negative turn because of these thoughts and beliefs.

We always have choice in our thoughts, no one can ever take that away from us. Victor Frankl was a perfect example of someone being in a Nazi concentration camp and refusing to be broken spiritually purely because he believed wholeheartedly that he could change his demeanour by changing his thoughts regardless of the reality.

Now this may seem to some as being a “Pollyanna” but the changing of thoughts brings relief, and in that relief you will find solutions and answers that otherwise could not have come forth whilst you were so connected to our drama.

Next time we are caught up in our cycle of negativity, step back outside the circle and just breathe long enough to have a different thought around the subject. It may not bring us instant results but it can bring us instant relief and in that relief we will find some peace.

So whether we wait for another moon cycle or we just wish to practice the art of manifesting and releasing purely by monitoring our own thoughts, I know that we will be happier and healthier from the inside out.

If you believe you can do a thing, or if you believe you cannot; In either case, you are right. Henry Ford

We all know the benefits of getting healthy.  Good food, exercise, plenty of sleep, but how many of us really work on clearing up our old self defeating habits of our mind that appear to be running the whole show?

If we leave leftovers in the fridge and continue to put things in front of them, they will not disappear.  Maybe change colour and grow mould, but nonetheless will still be there waiting for us to address and take the appropriate action.

Similarly, our old thoughts and beliefs, left unattended, are still inside us, gathering mould and festering, causing us to repeat old patterns and self sabotage.

A popular misconception is that time is a healer. Unfortunately the pain may appear to fade overtime, but it does not heal. A clear indication of this is when our emotions get triggered by an event that may seem (especially to the outsiders looking in), as, not only disportionate of the situation but the intensity way out of balance. I am sure that many of us have had this experience, or would perhaps rather forget !

These are the indicators that something is unhealed. People can only push our buttons if they are unhealed and raw.

So, what to do about it.  FIRSTLY, be self aware. Meaning, know when we are getting a charge around something and acknowledge it.

SECONDLY, take responsibility for our own emotions.  No one can make us feel anything.

THIRDLY, do not be upset by these outbursts of emotions. Welcome them, they are the calling cards for us to finally understand and heal them so they won’t keep presenting themselves, often in inappropriate situations. We can ask ourselves some questions when these emotions occur.

When have I felt this before?

What do I need to learn from this?

What do I believe about this situation?

Where did this belief come from?

The best way is to write these questions and the corresponding answers down. Surprisingly enough all these answers are already in our subconscious and by writing it down a pattern may start to emerge.

We are all capable of being our own analyst by taking a little time to nurture our emotional body.

Spring is here, so isn’t time for some spring cleaning of our hearts and minds? Clear out the clutter of old beliefs?

We attract to our lives the people that will most teach us about ourselves.

 

In a world where marketers are always telling us in order to attract clients we need to apply the principle of WIIFM, aka what’s in it for me, the concept of unconditional love seems quite foreign to most, if not all, often only applying to fortunate children and/or pets.

Anyone who has felt this unconditional love for a child or pet may have felt it very overwhelming that this person seemingly had so much power over us and our ‘rules’, but this is love in its purest form.

Our challenge now would be to extend that out to people that may appear easier to walk away from or have less influence on our hearts.  If we could extend that out to partners, friends and parents, we can set a new level of love that the world has been yearning for.

But first we have to be able to give up ‘The Rules’.   When we live by inflexible hard and fast rules we can be inadvertently sabotaging our desire for love over a need to be right.  Books have been written for dating based on manipulation, game playing and one upmanship. None of those words hold any connotation to having a happy and respectful relationship based on honesty and integrity. (Ironically, common words used in online dating profiles)

Love and relationships are not a game, there are no scorecards.  The only goal should be to keep our heart open.

By no accounts would I suggest that anyone accept abusive behaviours and receivers and givers of abuse didn’t get themselves in that cycle because of lack of ‘rules’. It was because of a lack of love; that being with themselves. Their view on relationships was already distorted attracting dysfunction and co-dependency.

In a healthy relationship both parties should be experiencing  equality, communication, established roles and the ability to negotiate and re negotiate if the need arises as circumstances change, like the addition of a baby, career moves or health issues.

Sometimes it feels easier to succumb to the cathartic effect, albeit temporary, feeling that you have control or power over a person or situation.  It can be tempting to feel less uncomfortable opposed to standing there naked and vulnerable.

Feelings of sadness, disappointment or being disillusioned are no excuse for withdrawing, withholding and closing down our hearts.

It is easy to get caught up in the illusion of being right, having control, standing our ground or winning.  This is not the path of deeper healing; this is the short term gratification our ego selves would like to have us believe will be our key to happiness. This false sense of power can be as addictive as drugs, alcohol and sugar.

To win a short term battle is no victory when we are engaging with other human beings feelings.

To love unconditionally means to love in spite of, even when, even if, putting no conditions or provisos on it.

As finding the ‘gift’ is a higher level of forgiveness, unconditional love is a deeper level of love.

The desire for love has to be greater than our desire for a false sense of security.

As my children now move into marriages and parenthood, it is even more important for me to apply these principles in my life as an example for their future.

When you touch someone with your spirit, they touch your soul with their heart. (Unknown)

Those who know me are aware of my passion for animals, and those labelled ADHD, (Attention Dialled into Higher Dimension), Autistic, Aspergers, Angels, and even Aliens.

These are my ‘A’ team, also often referred to as INDIGOS and like all A listers reside in an elite group that most of us aren’t a member.

What makes these ones appear to be different, and thus often thought of as less than the, so called, ‘normal’ people?

Some have theories on why the number of autistic and asperger children are on the rise relating it to environmental, vaccines or genetics, all of which have merit.

Whether there is evidence to those theories or not, in the bigger picture my belief is the one thing they have in common is that they are here to teach us about unconditional love, so their purpose is a spiritual one.

Perhaps the labels should read Authenticity, Awareness, Acceptance and Awesomeness.

The inability to understand each other is not due to one being less than, but more likely that their frequency is tuned differently to others, much like static on a radio or not clear television reception.  We don’t expect people in other countries to all speak the same language, we have to find common grounds of communication.

I believe this can be obtained through the heart and our senses. Have you noticed that animals and these ones are very sensitive to noises, light, smell, touch and taste.  Their sensory systems are highly attuned making them high receptors given the right environment.  They also aren’t being overridden by their heads and continual thoughts, enabling their authentic, intuitive skills to rise to the surface.

I believe our roles as parents, guides, teachers, guardians and health practitioners is to respect their sensitivity to this harsh earth environment and alleviate some of their angst.

A better understanding of nutrition, especially the effects of wheat on neural pathways, toxins in home products, personal care products and processed food and pharmaceuticals all attribute to making life a little easier for them.

My experience working with these A listers, whether they be two or four legged is that when you can get them as close to nature as possible they are better able to cope with the harshness of the world.

My belief is that people who are working wholistically with this group, work from more of an intuitive sense.  Communication does not only occur with the spoken word. They teach us that our verbal communication skills are limited so we have to expand our resources to endeavour to make the lines of communication clearer for both parties.

Mediums, animal whispererers, clairvoyants all use this form of communication. The ability to trust our senses more than our thoughts.

So what are the gifts we have experienced by having these ones in our lives?

Compassion, empathy, stronger connection to life and what really matters, unconditional love, perception & perspectives. It makes us research and reach for other alternative ways of looking at our health and wellbeing, a humbleness of how we show up in the world, to listen, to respect and be tolerant of people’s differences, to let go of our egoic personality that wants to control our lives, to be open and receptive, and grateful.

With Einstein being considered ‘unteachable’ and the amazing way wild animals only rely on instincts to survive and nurture, and seeing the communication between autistic children and animals, it does leave a huge question mark over what really is intelligence and how emotional intelligence is becoming more and more recognised for it’s connection to health and wellbeing.

Nothing happens in this world without purpose and these ones were not put in our path if there wasn’t a reciprocal gift for both.

My constant encounters with these ones in my work and personal life has reiterated to me how powerful the art of non verbal communication can be.

As these ones communicate on a higher vibration to most, the use of essentials oils & crystals in the form of sprays, energy healings and distant reiki healings, have helped me to bridge the communication gap.  My latest crystal spray is called Heart 2 Heart with its purpose of communicating through the heart space by bridging the gap.

Hugging is another form of heart to heart connection, and used in conjunction with the spray can open a portal of two way flowing energy.

Hugging produces a neuro peptide called Oxytocin which in turn lowers stress hormones such as cortisol.  It also aids in lowering blood pressure, lowering stress, boosting immune system, and easing symptoms of depression.  It also reduces sugar, drug and alcohol addictions.

Hugging activates the Solar Plexus chakra which is associated with our thymus gland which stimulates the production of serotonin and dopamine and balances the nervous system.

Whether you are a carer, parent, teacher, counsellor or pet owner to an A lister, it makes sense to incorporate some heart to heart hugging in your daily routine.  If workplace conditions prohibits personal touch or the use of alternative tools such as healing sprays, or energetic healings, then engage your heart in your interactions opposed to your mind and hear the ‘whispers’.

If touch and love is a universal language and it is primal, then it makes sense that non verbal communication via our senses can be far more effective and reach deeper parts of our souls than the spoken word.

If actions speak louder than words, then perhaps it’s time to give someone you love a heartfelt hug, including you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

On my recent trip to three countries in three weeks, from Greece to Turkey to Jordan, one obvious difference was the culture; incorporating the areas of family, social and religion.

Family interaction was very prevalent and important to their lives. Unlike a lot of Western societies, the elders were revered and respected for their wisdom and experience, and more importantly, their contribution they made to the family dynamics.

Having this sense of worth and life purpose leaves little wonder to why the European way of life has far less chronic health issues, not exclusively connected to their healthier, fresher, less toxic and processed eating lifestyle.

European, Indigenous and Eastern philosophies seem to put a stronger orientation to family, spirituality and nature regardless of the varying religious influence.

At the other end of the spectrum, these cultures are also more connected to their babies, although there are more Westerners open to what is now being termed Attachment Parenting

When I was first became a new mum in the late 80’s, I was, like many, of the belief that we may ‘spoil’ the child if we held them all the time, even though instinctively that’s what many of us wanted to do.

The reports that came out of the 20th Century, ironically from men of science rather than mothers, was that the child needed to learn to self soothe, one method being ‘controlled crying’.

If this broke your heart, you were not alone, but now we know there can be more detrimental side effects to this than positives, ranging from lack of sensitivity, trust, intimacy and independence.

Rest assured this is not a debate into breast versus bottle or mums who choose to go back to work, just an observation of how I struggled with the concept of controlled crying when it goes against our nature, as it did mine.

Through synchronistic intervention a book recently came into my possession (that’s a whole other story)  This book was titled Journey to the Sacred Mountains, Awakening Your Soul in Nature.

It’s about vision quests, rites of passage, indigenous cultures, in this case North American Indians, folklore, families and the natural evolution of them, as nature intended.

This is primarily, although not exclusively, aimed at the adolescents, the youth, the future, that have appeared to many, to have lost their way.  Those of you who are familiar with my writing and connection to these ones, will know of my passion to understand and consequently guide them to a place of inner peace and belonging, not only for their own suffering of being misunderstood, but for the ones that love them.

So it is of no surprise that this book ‘magically’ appears on my path.

It starts out with a folklore titled The Story of Jumping Mouse .  Like all folklores and dreamtime stories there are many lessons, characters, archetypes, interpretations and prolific wisdom enmeshed within the words that give us insights into life on a larger scale through the eyes of Mother Nature.

This story like many revolves around a spiritual quest into the powers of nature and our connection or disconnection to it.

In indigenous cultures the adolescents have their rite of passage into manhood via vision quests, spending time in nature, conversing whilst connecting to their inner self and ancestral natural roots.

I strongly agree with the author that the absence of an archetypal initiation may be the void that promotes alcohol and substance abuse as they seek solace in self medication, dangerous and self destructive, high risks acts, promiscuous behaviour, and violence.

It could also explain why many feel the need to become part of a gang to instigate some form of initiation process.

The attraction to the life and death scenarios could be a result of them instinctually knowing that’s where transformation takes place.

Even as adults, there is more evidence of voids showing up as anxiety, depression,  overuse of prescription medications, addictions in many forms of excess; shopping, eating, gambling, internet, just to name a few.

When we are deprived of our natural state of being and our jungles are replaced by concrete ones, our souls suffer.

It is no surprise why people flock to bodies of water or rain forests for holidays to recharge their soul batteries to remember their roots. Even stepping onto sand or grass with bare feet has an almost peaceful, euphoric, grounding feel to it as we are connecting back with Mother Earth.

In all three age groups the underlying factor is when we act from our natural state of being of compassion, love, respect and tolerance, our lives can return to its natural order.

We don’t all have to pack up and make a sea change, but acknowledging what is our natural flow is a good start.  Nurturing babies, respecting and honouring our elders and our youth being acknowledged their rite of passage is the way of Nature.

With so many theories, opinions, information and resources we have to be discerning of what is right for US and coming back to the true essence of us is an individual journey.  For some that may appear to be the road less travelled or an isolated path.

The irony is when we make the journey for ourselves we will find we are not alone and never was. Our individuality will join us to others on their wholeness/oneness path.

When we de-tox, de-clutter and dis-entangle our minds and bodies and step out of our dis-guises we may then remove dis-ease, dis-association and dis-harmony.

Having a life philosophy is a personal choice but having one enables us to make life decisions that correlate with that philosophy.

My personal philosophy of life & subsequent teachings, have always been heart centred, hence I make my decisions from a feeling centre, rather than a thought provoked analytical process.

There is much to be learnt, or rather, remember, not through technology but through humanity and our acknowledgement to Nature.

All these are very powerful new age words that most of us are familiar with and probably at some stage have read about.  Law of Attraction, Art of Allowing, Being in Alignment, Authentic Self, Being in Abundance.

From attending and listening to a lot of inspirational speakers I have heard all these words and phrases used many, many times.   Some of the definitions that have resonated with me and what I have seen play out, are perhaps to offer everyday examples or at least another perspective on these words that may be worth pondering.

AUTHENTICITY in my experience is being true to you even when, or especially when it may feel uncomfortable.  To be authentic in some cases is to have the hard conversations with people, especially tricky for those who shy away from confrontation.

But perhaps it could also mean that we are enabling people by not allowing them to learn their own lessons, by making things easier for them. Of course, we never want to see other people suffer, so if we can ease that for them, (and us of course) that’s ok then, right????

What if in doing that we deprive them from a much needed lesson.  Here’s an example; someone offers to do us a favour, we accept, (even though we are a little uncomfortable about accepting) and then they are feeling anxious, second thoughts etc.  Many of us would immediately step in and allow them to bow out gracefully without the discomfort of having to state their case.  What if they have an issue of over committing themselves or with never asking for what they want?  By us stepping in to let them off the hook we circumnavigated that opportunity for them to grow by pushing them outside their comfort zone and also potentially could have stopped us from ALLOWING someone to do a favour for us.

Those of us who are parents probably enable our children regularly, depriving them of valuable life lessons, thus not being authentic in our decision or allowing them to shine.  Most of the times we are operating from a place of fear not love and it can make us feel better knowing they are not doing without.  Put in those terms it actually portrays it more as an act of selfishness rather than being constructive, which would never have been our conscious intention.

The terminology of being in or out of alignment can be measured by the level at which we feel emotionally.  If we are hurting, resentful, angry, sad, disillusioned or unhappy about any given situation, then that is the barometer to realise we are out of alignment with ourselves.

In the understanding of Law of Attraction this is just an opportunity to acknowledge the circumstances and relationships that are causing us discord and manoeuvre our thoughts to a different perspective.  An earlier blog I wrote on Gifts in strange wrapping paper emphasises this more.   This is not to blame another person or situation as the cause of our pain, but to recognise it as an opportunity to show us where we may still be forsaking ourselves either by not having boundaries or awareness of our triggers, all the whilst  remembering the other person or situation is just the catalyst.

So when we have an understanding of Authenticity; being true to you and answerable to your own integrity.  Allowing; getting out of our own way and knowing we are worthy.  Alignment; feeling happy and grateful even when circumstances can be challenging.  Attraction; knowing that whatever emotions we are feeling are an indicator of what energy or vibration we are offering and hence what will come back to us and when that is one of Alignment, then Abundance can finally be ours in all areas of our lives. Abundance can come to fruition in many forms; prosperity, thriving health and energy, great relationships and opportunities.

Why not let the FIVE A’s reside within us today and reap the rewards.

As a wholistic wellness practitioner I am constantly making reference to balance.  The analogy I use to describe this balance is likened to the swing of the pendulum.  To obtain this balance the pendulum should be central in the arc flow. Not too far right or too far left. How is this achievable?

My theory is when we approach our life wholistically covering many aspects of the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual, balance can be restored.

We all know people that are killing it financially but can lack social skills, be emotionally void, lack family commitment or have major health issues.

Subsequently there are others that have enormous amounts of empathy, compassion, strong family values and social skills but lack any business or career prowess.

Some would say that we can’t be good at everything but what if we just weren’t asking ourselves the right questions? Those questions would be aimed at any issues, fears, or blocks that we may have placed in our path, ultimately in most cases, for protection, but we have to ask ourselves, from what? Usually our own illusions.

Many children are afraid of the dark but when we turn on the light they are pacified.  The same goes for our own adult fears and illusions. When we shed light, in the form of awareness, solutions can rise to the top.

If our inability to obtain balance is the result of some limiting beliefs based on our prior experiences, awareness and willingness to achieve wholeness is the first step.

Often circumstances can cause us to make new choices that swing opposite to what we may have previously done.  An abusive victim declares they will never be in that situation again and switches from passive to aggressive.

Someone who has thrown themselves into making someone else’s life happy fears losing themselves in a new relationship so chooses to boycott all future ones.

In both cases there has been a massive swing in perspective but both ends of the spectrum are dysfunctional and polar opposites.

Many times I’ve been asked how we know if we are out of balance.  Put simply, I think our bodies are our best barometers.  Pain, ailments and emotional stress are one of the perfect indicators that imbalances are at play.

Unresolved relationships can also have a massive impact on balancing our health and wellbeing.  The balance would be neutral feelings rather than the spectrum of feelings ranging from resentment, regret, anger, revenge, animosity or sadness.

Information on Workshops or one on one counselling sessions specifically designed to restore balance can be found at my website as Wholistic Wellness Wheel

When you come from a heart space everything else falls into place

We are all familiar with the terms ‘think with your heart’ or ‘follow your heart’ and many would think this to be some new age terminology or romantic trifling.

More and more scientists are providing evidence to show how mechanism works to prove what the ancients and indigenous cultures have known before time.  The HEART is the master organ and it is the intelligence of our body.

All spiritual groups with many varying principles all have one common theme, that is, they communicate through their hearts, not their minds.

In the 17^th century when there were more scientific tools, the heart got bumped off its post and was relegated to a mechanical blood pump and the brain got top billing. By the 1990’s more discoveries uncovered that the brain had its own intrinsic nervous system, like a small brain in the heart. Neurons in the heart can sense, feel and remember.

Heart Intelligence relates to intuition and when measured, the heart is 5000 times more magnetic than the brain and its energy field reaches out to around four feet (1.2metres) compared to the brain of around 1 inch (2.5cm). Interestingly enough it is the first organ developed in a foetus.

What is the universal force that holds the Universe together? Compassion, and that comes from a heart space.

How does this information help us in our everyday lives? From all the therapies I have encountered and using myself as the guinea pig, the most common trap when we can fall into is over doing the cognitive therapy. We can get stuck in our heads and overanalyse everything, fry our brains and go around in circles. Sound familiar?

Don’t get me wrong, I am not putting down cognitive therapy by any means, god knows I have done countless courses on psychology and have a massive library but I learnt that I couldn’t do it all from my mind, there had to be a combination.

We all need a starting point when we go on any self discovery journey and it often starts in the mind but what I know now from my own journey and work with clients, is that all levels of healing, the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual bring about lasting deeper change. Emotions are energy and it can get trapped in our cellular memory from the time of conception. Without the capacity to rationalise or analyse our thoughts as a foetus, it’s only fair to say we would be struggling to ever uncover those emotions on a conscious level.

This weekend was my birthday, and it was fantastic but that wasn’t always the case. Birthdays, for some, can often be a mixed bag of emotions, and I was no exception. Some of the reasons for this can be our births were unplanned, unwanted, wrong sex, financial burden, kept parents tied together and birth traumas. It’s no wonder we all struggle with unconditional love for self. Our birth, from conception, can leave lasting memories on a cellular level that cognitive therapies would struggle to reach, let alone resolve.

That is why I believe energy work can be so beneficial because it can bring about shifts, so for those of us who like to know the answers, it can often rise to the top for cognitive understanding.

I drove my hypnotherapy tutor mad as I always wanted to know the ‘whys’ instead of just allowing the healing to occur naturally. The trouble with that is that when we poke too much consciously the further down it seems to drive the answers, because they are emotional and emotions don’t have to be rational or logical….they just are. It’s another reason why I love working with animals, they just allow healing to occur and don’t get in their own way.

I slept walked through a lot of my life until I decided to have an affair. That affair was with ME. The reason I call it an affair because I had to do a lot of sneaking around to hide the type of books I was reading and courses I was doing because the type of emancipation I was heading toward would have rocked the foundation of my then, husbands security.

My journey was of trial and error but I knew I wanted to be able to pass on those life experiences to others and help them join the dots a lot faster than I did. Wholistic healing just makes sense to me.

We are not our minds or our bodies but as souls we can heal as a whole. The leap of faith ride can be a bigger rush than anything our mind can conjure.

Our minds are more like Google, its global, not personal and generic. Heart Google is ours exclusively, only we have the password. We are unique and worth the personal touch.

If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and expecting different results, then perhaps its time to change strategies.

It would be remiss to think that our personal healing journey isn’t a worthwhile exercise or that it isn’t a form of contribution to humanity. We don’t have to be writers, therapists, or healers to make a difference in the world. We all influence someone in our lives, our biggest being our children, and what better way to start a new generation of healthy positive role models than to become one.

I like this quote from William Shakespeare: The Meaning of Life is to find your Gift. The Purpose of Life is to give it away.

Yesterday was the third anniversary of the passing of my ex husband and father of my two children.

Whilst I try to make a practice of remembering his life with all the positives, rather than concentrating on the loss, it still can trigger off some elements of sadness, especially for my children, and as any parent will attest to, seeing your children in pain is heartbreaking.

Through all the messages and tributes, including a reposting of a slideshow tribute on social media that my sister in law had created, the message hit home of what he had left behind as his legacy, all the while Elvis Presley’s “My Way” was playing in the background.

That legacy was to live life to the fullest, live without fear and seize the day. So even though I can feel sad for all the special moments in my children’s life where his absence will be felt, I can take comfort in the knowledge that his life philosophy will live on in our children.

As parents we probably excel at protecting and nurturing more than we encourage them to embrace their uniqueness, risk taking and leaps of faith.

Imagine how different our lives would look if we lived fearlessly in all areas.  So many of us live our lives in the bubble of our comfort zone.  How far could we go if we didn’t fear failure, rejection, embarrassment or the need for approval?

Every day we are offered opportunities in our life.  I believe the difference between successful, happy people are those who seize those opportunities without letting fear inhabit their minds and bodies literally crippling us.

No one can predict when this life may end, so to not live a life with regret maybe we should adopt our own philosophy of the three ‘F’s.  Live Fearlessly, Forgive and have Fun.  I heard Robert Holden speak at a Hay House conference a couple of years ago and he said, ‘Not your purpose to arrive safely at your own funeral – Live Now, Procrastinate Later’

FEAR is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real

Having the courage to face our fears doesn’t necessarily constitute bunging jumping or skydiving. Perhaps it might be to have that hard conversation that we have been avoiding with a friend, family member or work colleague.  It might be having the courage to leave a job and follow our heart, or leave a relationship that we know is over.

Mend that rift, be a hero, don’t put off telling people we love them or we’re sorry. Live with no regrets because tomorrow is not guaranteed, today is all we have.

Maybe our mission is to leave our mark on this world not for how ‘safe’ we played the game of life, but instead of how brave we were, to dare to just be US.

Don’t be afraid your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin

Life does challenge us and at times it can be very overwhelming but when we challenge those fears the universe gives us hope and for anyone experiencing grief and loss it can seem the pain never subsides.  (please see article via link)

If you still need further encouragement then please take a moment to listen to the words of “My Way” and adopt your own philosophy on life that is right for you.

In closing I want to share with you the poem I wrote yesterday

The day looms again that fills most with a dread

But it’s the jokes, the laughter, and the memories

I’ll choose instead

If I feel that you’re gone and it makes me blue

I look at our children and know that’s not true

From antics, pulled faces to drive and ambition

The pieces of you always rise to fruition

When I look up and find the brightest star

It reminds me to smile

Cos you’re never too far

Always in our hearts 

RIP Mick Kemp 10.6.55 – 8.4.11