I wrote this article in 2009 when the talk of the world ending December 21st, 2012.  People were not ready for this ascension at this time so December 21st 2014 became the new date for ascension.

With all the talk of 2012 and the impact thereof I thought it might be a good opportunity to dispel some of the ‘Hollywood’ myths of this.

2012 is a time of change, a reversal if you like of the old way of thinking.  Time to start to THINK with our HEARTS and FEEL with our HEADS.  A time for working on the internal first so the external just manifests naturally. 

It’s not about pushing, struggling, striving, climbing up or over. Some believe that we need to push to make things happen. That is a lack of trust, faith and patience. No decision should be made based on fear. A fear of lack, a fear of nothing better on offer or a missed opportunity never to come around again, will only lead us to further confusion and poor choices.

It’s just about being present, being aware of our surroundings and taking responsibility for our own emotions. This internal presence will bring about the change we are all searching for. The silence and the stillness of our peaceful minds will speak loudly and produce the signposts to the next steps of our goals, and they will be peaceful, without the clutter and anxiety of having to ‘DO’ instead of just ‘BE’.

If we can implement this into our everyday lives along with TRUST, FAITH and PATIENCE everything we desire can manifest into reality. This is not about inertia or wishful thinking, It’s when we no longer struggle our insight becomes our 20/20 vision into our future and our world become synchronized.

Speaking of synchronized, it has been brought to my attention, more and more of late, that many people are experiencing seeing the figures of 11.11 on their digital readouts of microwaves, mobile phones and car clocks.

This is also about those who are working at synchronizing their lives are witnessing this occurrence more and more frequently. For more information on 11.11

www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2009/02/1111/

I hope in some small way people can start to make a shift in their way of thinking to implement some of these new strategies because it has never been more important for a change as it is now.

The world does need to end but not as the box office would portray, just an end to a societal shift of the world as we now know it

Life is like quicksand, the more we struggle the faster we sink

I am sure I am not alone when I say that parenting would have to be one of the hardest jobs in the world.

One that has the most impact on another human being, and yet one that we can be thrust into with minimal training and preparation.

No surprise why some animals eat their young!!

There is a different way we need to parent after our children are no longer under our roof and are legally, even though sometimes not emotionally, adults.

The stepping back and allowing them to make mistakes is not only a necessary part of their development but our own.

Part of our own development is to understand that, in part, the reason we enable our children is that we are actually, doing it for our own peace of mind.  It makes us feel better when we know they aren’t going without, are sad or making foolish, (in our opinions) choices.

We can stunt their emotional and spiritual growth when we constantly don’t allow them to slip and fall, make mistakes, go without, budget, problem solve, and suffer consequences.

It was our job to protect, provide and give them security, when they couldn’t fend for themselves, but now all our job description entails is to love and respect them.

Even though our parental instincts never fade we have to make some adjustments to our roles and allow our adult children to learn their valuable life lessons in their own way and in their own time to enable them to manage in the world.

When we first practise this emancipation of our adult children we will be thwarted by guilt, over protectiveness and the need to fix it.  We can certainly justify that we have more life experience and hence can see around corners, therefore should intervene. But how are our adult children going to get that same life experience if we constantly go in and clean up after them?

As a parent, I fully understand that we worry about our children, adult or minor, but what I have learnt is that worrying doesn’t serve any worthwhile purpose except to restrict our flow of positive thoughts. Worry is just a fear of something that may never happen and we all know how fear can cripple us. Fear has an acronym that is worthy of remembering.

False Evidence Appearing Real

If we can stay in the NOW and deal with what is presented to us at the time rather than assuming the worst, the calmer and more grounded we will be.  This is also beneficial to our children to show them how to handle problems.  Remember, it’s not what we SAY that influences them, it’s what we DO. So being a role model is the best gift we can give our children.

Trust that you have done everything to give them the groundwork for them to venture out in the world and trust them. Their journey is their own. We can’t live it for them or control it.

Our children don’t belong to us; they are just here on loan.

The old saying of ‘Don’t give a man a fish, teach him how to fish‘, is the definite message here. 

I was first reminded of this stepping back process nearly ten years ago with one of my children in its mildest form and again recently with another. It’s as much a growth for parent as it is for child.

I would like to leave you with an extract I received from the works of Abraham, through the writings of Esther and Jerry Hicks that I found so profound that I keep it with me always just as a reminder of what I will do for my adult children now because I love them enough to step back.

Nothing is more debilitating than to care about something you cant do anything about.  And you cant do anything about your adult children.  You can want better for them, and maybe even begin to provide something for them, but in the long run, you cannot do anything about someone else’s vibration other than hold them in the best light you can, mentally, and then project that to them.  And sometimes, distance makes that much more possible than being up close to them.

Child of mine, I will never do for you that which I know you can do for yourself. I will never rob you of an opportunity to show yourself your ability and talent. I will see you at all times as the capable, effective, powerful creator that you’ve come forth to be. And I will stand back as your most avid cheerleading section. But I will not do for you that which you have intended to do for yourself. Anything you need from me, ask. I’m always here to compliment or assist. I am here to encourage your growth, not to justify my experience through you.

Success in Life doesn’t come from following rules, it comes from thinking for oneself and following ones heart and inner will

John Gray PHD

 We are all on a quest, a journey to find the ultimate prize.  Is it fame, fortune, status, beauty?

No, it’s peace, inner peace and a sense of acceptance and love.

This sounds simple but it eludes most of us for a good part of our lives until we realize that we held the key to this treasure all along.

The reason why we never knew we had it already is because it has been buried under a lifetime of negative beliefs and self talk.

These beliefs have been planted there by events that have happened to us but we are the ones that have kept them alive whilst slowly killing our self worth.

We all think that the new car, house, job, partner or body will ultimately make us happy.

Unfortunately this is a very short term bandaid. What we are really craving is our own self love and self worth.

In these times there has been much suffering and abuse at the hands of others but whilst the abuse may have stopped, we take over for our abusers by not challenging those feelings of unworthiness they have implanted.

We may not have had the strength or courage to stand up to our abusers then but don’t let them have one more day of our power and energy by continuing to believe their lies.

Our personal quest will be an adventure, both thrilling and scary, exhilarating and fulfilling. This is not to minimize our pain just the power we give it.

Our perception of the events can greatly affect our recovery and ability to move forward.

When we take responsibility for our own emotions and realize they are not the enemy but use them as an opportunity to unlock the key to our self defeating patterns, the happier and more at peace we will be.

In time, hopefully we may even recognize that the person, and most probably more than one in our lifetime, has only pushed a wound that was already open.

Our job is to trace that wound back to its root origin so it doesn’t keep returning and heal it from there.

If we do not heal this wound it will continue to rise up. The circumstances will be different, the players in the scenario will be different, but the one thing in common they will have is the same emotion we attach to it.

Liken it to gardening, if we pull out the tops of the weeds and leave the bulbs they will keep returning.

To mask these emotions rising up again and again, many of us will try to suppress them by turning to addictive behaviours in one form or another.

Hence, enter the workaholic, shopaholic, alcoholic, gym junkie, and numerous others that I am sure we know all too well.  Comfort food, smoking, drugs, sex, television, being online, to name but a few.

We are the common denominator in our life story and these people and circumstances are just catalysts to give us yet another opportunity to heal an old wound.

Eventually, we may even be able to thank all these events and people that have caused us anguish over the years and see the circumstances as a GIFT.

People come into our lives to teach us, about US.

Through these events there may have been a lot of positives that we have gained. The most likely being, higher levels of compassion, empathy, and an acute awareness of our own behaviour onto others.

My hope for all people who have been subjected to abuse is that we still have enough strength and self worth to fight one more battle.

To realize we are not victims but just the leading role in a play.  All the clues are there when we step outside our story and choose to learn what the message behind the story truly is.

Push through all our negative beliefs and fears and find our true treasure and key to freedom.

Be our own therapist and treasure hunter and set ourselves free.

Join me on the Quest of a lifetime, OURS.

I have recently been reminded about following my heart and taking the proverbial ‘leap of faith’.

How many of us are following our hearts or worse yet, compromising our integrity in the process? The first step in reclaiming back our integrity is being honest with ourselves and rethinking what is really important to us.

We need to ask ourselves is the job, relationship or material possessions a step towards our dreams or a step further away?  This is the best time to take awareness and brutal honesty to a new level.  Are the choices we are making on a daily basis contributing or contaminating our hearts desires?

When we are honest with ourselves the true reason for being exactly where we are is painfully blatant of just how far off track we have gone.  It’s no wonder we feel overwhelmed and trapped by life and no amount of ‘things‘ can make us feel whole.

Two primary examples of this are the career choices we make and the relationships we choose.  Let’s start with our jobs first. How many of us are working to live and not enjoying it? If we were offered another job that paid less, but it was something we could get passionate about, what would we do?

I would like to think the universe rewards us for following our hearts and when our hearts are open the prospects of abundance are endless. Hence, the lesser paid job could result in more than monetary rewards that superceded the previous job.

All that Glitters is not Gold !!

Secondly, and this applies mainly to all the single people out there looking for love.

We all have lists, goals, expectations, standards, wants and wishes for a relationship, but these are often so inflexible and rigid there is no room either side of them for any compromise.

I am not suggesting anyone compromise their integrity. I am talking about getting out of our heads of the societal standards that have been put in place, that are restricting us from having the real things we want. Surprisingly, it may not be what we first thought we wanted.

Most times we will not follow our hearts because we rationalize all the reasons not to, hence begins the battle of heart versus head.

When we follow our hearts instead of our heads we won’t have the ten point checklist and only interview the people with the best resume.  People aren’t the sum of a checklist.  A relationship is a culmination of both people’s experiences and what they can bring to the table for each persons learning experience.

Again, this has been pointed out to me recently by a dear friend who I am very grateful for their wisdom. For those movie buffs there was also a message in the movie “The Ugly Truth” where this was depicted beautifully.

It has recently occurred to me that when we come from a place of decision only using our head as the source, why it is so confusing.

The brain is like a ‘google‘ search engine.  Every piece of information we have ever encountered, through books, television, friends or strangers, and of course our own life experiences, has been downloaded there.  With so much information and different perspectives, no wonder we struggle to make a decision.

I would suggest that all this information can be weighed up, but the ultimate decision of what is right for our life is our own private exclusive google search engine; that being our heart.

If we are not getting clear messages from our heart, then it would suggest to me that there are limiting beliefs that need to be addressed.

By that I mean there have been events in our life that we have put labels on that may now be out-dated and not serving us well.

Our heart was never meant to be caged.  It was always meant to be free.  The voice of the heart is pure, uncensored and above all, the truth.

When we hear the words of love from our heart it will be the gift we give ourselves.

With another Christmas over and debts and anxiety again rising, please spare a moment to think of the gifts we really have to offer to others.

Our compassion, tolerance, words of wisdom, and time are the real gifts that actually grow in momentum when given. Bears thinking about opposed to maxxing out the credit card !

When we quieten the voices in our head, the ones in our heart will be the only voice we hear.  Once we take the ‘leap of faith’,we will be lining up again and again to take that ride.  The adrenalin rush far outweighs any theme park ride. 

As long as our thoughts and actions are in alignment with our true self, happiness, health and abundance is inevitable.

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart

Helen Keller

These are words that get used a lot but perhaps its time to elaborate a bit more on the meanings behind them.  How many of us have had a goal, dream or wish and have used all our knowledge of ‘positive thinking, law of attraction, affirmations, meditating, manifesting and even good old fingers crossed, to bring these into fruition, only to find that we still appear to come up short?

Now along comes a few regulars we will recognise well.  Impatience, frustration, despondency, hopelessness.  Some phrases that come readily to mind are:  NOT FAIR, WHY, WHAT ELSE DO I HAVE TO DO? WHEN?  All our efforts appear to be in vain, or do they?

Why do some people seem to get that they ask for quicker than others? The difference could be that these people have taken ‘expectation‘ out of the equation.

That’s not to say we lower our expectations, its about the details of exactly how it should look.  If the end result is still the same are we willing to drop our expectations of the how and when?

The Universe will bring us pieces of our desires in the order that is in our best interests. Unfortunately, some of us think we know better, when in reality, if we were our own life managers, we should probably dismiss our services based on previous performance results so far.

Trust is a knowing that the event will happen, but be willing to give up the details.  Sometimes we fail to see the gift in front of us because we see it wrapped in different wrapping paper and not exactly what we expected.

Before you know it we are out of our zone of positivity, faith, hopelessness and smack bang into resentment, anger, blame and ungratefulness.

It looks like we just went down another snake and have to start the process all over again.  Not so, just be willing to change our thoughts and the change has already started.

A few analogies about manifesting that maybe helpful:

KNOW WHAT WE WANT.  A simple way to achieve this is by making a vision board.  Liken this to visiting a restaurant.  If the waiter brings us the menu and we don’t know what we want, then rightly so, we will receive nothing.  It is not his job to assume what we want.

GET OUT OF OUR OWN WAY.  Again, using the restaurant analogy, once we’ve placed our order we wouldn’t go in the kitchen to ensure they are preparing exactly what we asked for, unless of course getting chased by a meat cleaver is high on our wish list.

This is where trust and faith comes into play.  Don’t be blind to all the little wins that add up to the big one.  Be grateful for all the pieces of the puzzle that eventually form the bigger picture.

Remember, we all have to learn in steps.  Too fast a growth will prevent us from seeing all the lessons along the way.  We would never expect a child to go from a three wheeler to a two wheeler and then a motorbike in a space of weeks.

When we let go of our expectations of how it should look, we can move out of REACTING and back into CREATING. (Funnily enough these two words have the exact same letters)

To keep our relationships in harmony, letting go of expectations is paramount.  Please do not confuse this with personal boundaries and integrity.  If someone crosses the line on our personal boundaries then we still need to maintain vigilance on this.

The expectations is expecting our partner, boss, friend to behave in accordance with our wish list and being disappointed when this does not occur.   Remember its no one else’s job to make us happy, just as it’s not our job to make someone else happy.

So the next time we feel overlooked or jealous of someone else’s good fortune, firstly look within and see if we are standing in our own way by trying to control the outcome of our desires so tightly that there is no wriggle room.

After doing all these things and there is still resistance to accepting the dreams we have cosmically ordered for ourselves, then further investigation of our emotional state will need to be addressed or this whole process will be compromised.

Check to see if there is any underlying reasons why the manifestation is not occurring. It could be unworthiness or a fear of success in which self sabotaging will come into play.

After we have addressed all these options, then sometimes the best choice we can make is to do nothing but trust that everything is happening exactly in the correct order to manifest our heart’s desires.

The Stillness will bring the brightest achievements.

In 2012 I was on an overseas cruise to the beautiful South Pacific with Hay House and had the amazing experience of being part of a seminar with some great speakers and writers that were not only inspirational but offered freely the benefit of their life experiences so that other would be writers and healers could pass on their wisdom to their peers.

Although primarily the cruise was concerning the aspects of publishing, book proposals and growing our platform, the loving and generous spirit of Louise Hay was ever present through her authors and heads of business.

The theme of the seminar was Movers and Shakers but every aspect of that journey was all shown through the highest integrity and intention of service.

There were many reinforced messages throughout these two weeks floating on the beautiful blue seas of the South Pacific.

One being that although we were all from different walks of life and different countries, the commonality was the feeling of oneness between us all, whether it be our like-minded visions for the future or for the mere fact we were all souls having this human experience and sharing a common goal.

Given the fact that we were a captive audience on this cruise ship enabled there to be many opportunities to have countless conversations and experiences with this select group of people.

Whether it was the fact that we were often isolated in a controlled environment on the high seas, or we were with many people who shared a vision, or the vastness and mysterious nature of the ocean and being surrounded by that force, or a combination of all three, led to a gamut of emotions for many people over the next couple of weeks that proved to be both synchronistic and divine.

Water is emotion, being the reason we often scramble to be near the river, sea or waterfalls. Considering 70 -75% of our body weight is made up of water; it is no surprise why it has such a major impact on our ability to get ourselves into an altered state of consciousness just by being in its presence.

It flows and breathes and reminds us that we also need to be fluent and allow our thoughts and feelings to flow through us rather than restrict their flow by resistance, thus causing blockages in our system that can result in emotional and physical distress.

One of the exciting things for me to come out of this cruise was a confirmation that there are no coincidences and we will attract into our lives just the right person that we need for our next level of growth. Sometimes it can be a comment from a passing stranger, a television program that appears to be imitating our life, or in my case, a roommate from overseas that shared so many of my personal experiences that we bonded and probably helped each other pass through another level of healing.

When we open our hearts and minds to trying new things and stepping outside our comfort zone we are always pleasantly surprised at what the universe can serve up to us in the way of growth.

Staying stagnant and never challenging ourselves leads to our life force draining out of us.  If we allow our lives to become too safe we often lose our zest for life and all too often sickness and apathy can result.

That’s not to say we need our lives to look like something right out of a soap opera either. It is about a healthy balance of continual growth and optimistic and realistic awareness of what is and isn’t working in our lives.

Awareness is being fully present everyday on how we are feeling, what buttons are being pushed and taking full responsibility for those emotions and the interpretations that we place on them.

How do we keep ourselves on track with our highest good and live in this state of integrity? To achieve this on a more consistent level we need to be aware of how to raise our vibration and level of consciousness.

There are many ways to raise our level of vibration that are quick and simple and with practice will become second nature.

We don’t have to meditate on a mountain top for six months to achieve this. It can be as simple as playing self development CD’s in the car, singing, playing upbeat music, exercise, dancing, good feeling movies, inspirational DVD’s, taking a class that interests us, being in nature, vision boards, a gratitude journal, fresh life force food, meditating, patting our pet, deep breathing. Being mindful of the words we are using, spending more time with high vibrational people and reading.

These may seem pretty obvious ones that we have heard before but when we do anything that makes us FEEL good consistently its like depositing in our SELF bank. The balance grows and earns interest so that when something challenging does occur in our lives we are better prepared for that rainy day when we have a little something put away.

I would like to finish with a few more challenging ones that I would like you to consider that will not only raise our vibration considerably but others around us. We would not only be helping ourselves but others too as raising our vibration will have a significant effect on the people in our lives.

Learn to say NO

Forgive someone

Forgive yourself

Tell yourself that you love you (In a Mirror)

Do a random act of kindness for a stranger

Have an Energy Alignment or Chakra Balancing

Allow, Surrender Accept without resistance

Make choices from a Heart Space rather than a Head Space.

Do what you have always done and you will get what you have always got.

Be the change that you want to happen

This article was written in 2012 but the content seemed relevant to share again.

With so many dating sites popping up over the internet and countless singles groups, it would appear fairly safe to say people are finding it a challenge to find love.

How many times have we heard, or even said to ourselves, “There’s no good ones out there“ or ‘The good ones are already taken’ ?

With divorce on the rise, there are more and more people being put in the recycle bin.  So, is it a question of ‘Someone’s trash is someone else’s treasure?’

Or, if we don’t understand our own individual unmet needs and past emotional issues, we could very well be taking on someone else’s problems by simple Law of Attraction.  Scary thought isn’t it?

So don’t settle for Mr or Miss RIGHT NOW when with a little work we could have the real deal.

Whilst I don’t claim to have all the answers to the Love Game, I can certainly help you understand some of the pitfalls that you may have come across that could explain why so many have been unlucky in love so far.

Firstly, real love won’t be about how attractive we look.  That’s not to say that when we take care of ourselves, mind, body and spirit, that it doesn’t make us feel good, so hence that will send out positive energy.  We may think we are a good person and a have a lot to give a relationship, but if we aren’t feeling the same then the energy isn’t coming through, so firstly look after OURSELVES.

Next, we have to heal the past.  An autopsy on our last relationship is paramount otherwise the new person could very well be paying for the sins of the last.

Guaranteed if we have an unhealed wound, the purpose of the NEW relationship is to, firstly, get you comfortable enough to let your guard down.  Then a bit later down the track it appears that our perfect love just did a complete 180 on us.  True?  Sound familiar?

Having an understanding of energy and law of attraction, it is important to understand that any situation we find ourselves in, positive or negative, can not occur unless some part of us was in alignment with the same energy.

Now, before we pout, it is not saying that it is our fault or that we were deserving of any bad behavior. Put simply, even though we may have been unaware of any fragments of old patterns, the fact that they are still occurring is our proof that we are in alignment with the same vibrational energy.

So, what to do? Recognise that we could be in a time warp of repeating old patterns, don’t beat ourselves up (or the new partner). Recognition is the first step to healing.

I have used this analogy many times, but I think its quite powerful and helps to connect the dots, so I think it bears repeating.

If we had a physical wound that wasn’t healed and someone poked it, understandably we would be very upset and recoil in pain and upset with that person.  The reality is that person did not cause the wound, it was already there.  They just made us aware of it again.

Understanding this concept now gives us a different perspective on our situation. One that we can now share some of the responsibility and thus begin our healing journey.

We have all colluded to our own victimization to set ourselves up for disappointment. Whether it be, ignoring our own instincts, over nurturing to win favour with someone, being fearful that another opportunity may not arise and making hasty decisions, or being impatient for the same reasons.

Contrary to what some may think, taking ownership of our emotional state is not giving in or allowing people to get away with less than appropriate behaviour.  This couldn’t be further from the truth.  When we truly believe that another persons behaviour towards us is either an opportunity for healing or nothing to do with us, the more likely we are to feel at peace with life.

Revenge, resentment, rage and spite are certainly not attractive characteristics that we should want to take with us into the next relationship.

Remember to also look in other relationships that we may not be recognizing that we are giving our power away in. Friends, bosses, work colleagues, parents, children or siblings.

It is highly likely that if we have attracted partners that have treated us a certain way then there will be others. The good news is often when we heal the origin of our hurt all the other people in the present miraculously appear to have had some form of lobotomy.

To be assertive is not aggressive, so be mindful that if we start to do some healing and exert some assertion, that the pendulum doesn’t swing too far the other way.  There is a lot of space in between from doormat to butt kicker.

If love seems to be passing over us then the light may be out in our lighthouse.  To turn our heartlight back on we need to begin to court ourselves first.  Taking care of ourselves physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually is the key to finding love.  The nice thing is when we commit to do the work the guarantee is that we will find at least ONE love.  That will be YOU.

If we look hard into ourselves we will find that we are exactly what we were looking for

 

 

The subject of this blog is Indigo Children, a subject very dear to my heart.

Indigos, for those not familiar, is the term used to describe a group of children that have been born mainly from the 70’s onward but there has been documented cases of Indigos well into their 50’s.

There have been a number of books written about the Indigos from authors Nancy Trappe, Lee Carroll & Jan Tober, and Doreen Virtue for your reference. This is my experience, and my own personal accounts with these souls.

To either parent, be married to, or have as a sibling can only be described as a blessing and a curse, which is exactly how they feel about their own lives at times. As I have experienced all of these roles hopefully I can share my findings thereby shedding some light for not only them but for the people that are part of their lives.

In my attempt to play ‘devil’s advocate’ I will endeavour to acknowledge all players in this intricate web of family dynamics.

The Indigos often, but not always, portray many of the following traits. Highly sensitive, both emotionally and physically to toxins, chemicals, preservatives, and cow’s milk which leads to congestion, sinus and upper respiratory problems, question authority, impatient, don’t like rules,

Whether it be legal or school structures, opinionated, angry, intuitive, perceptive about others, but unfortunately not so for their own well being, have short attention spans, do not respond to guilt trips, have either strong empathy or none, are trail blazing warriors that have been theorized to bring about change to a time when the world most needs it.

How can these non- conforming, angry, rebellious young people hope to achieve their life purposes when they appear so lost themselves you wonder.

Let’s try to understand their way of thinking a little better.

They are experiential learners so learning the hard way is a criteria for them.  They have a high sense of personal integrity of not doing things because they ‘should’, often to their own detriment.  They have an understanding of stressors so the quickest release of stress is to move the body, which is often referred to as their misdiagnosis of ADHD.  Doreen Virtue actually changes that anagram to Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. 

According to the results of PET scans performed on these children there were differences in their frontal lobes where organization, planning & structure skills are located.  Some tests actually revealed that they had similar brain patterns to those children deemed gifted.

They will often do hands on jobs in building, construction, plumbing, or electrical to learn how basic technology works as their creative gifts are often found in future technology.

Indigos have a warrior spirit inherent in them as they have a purpose to change systems that aren’t working because of a lack of integrity, being our education, legal and government systems so they appear to have a vigilante personality to these systems and the people representing them, but have a protective nature towards the elderly, sick or unfortunate.

The duality of their persona often has them misinterpreted of who they really are.  They are left and right brained and often ambidextrous which gives the impression of being two people, their higher consciousness versus their personality, which can be dense, limited, emotional and very closed off.  It’s interesting to note that Einstein was labelled ‘unteachable‘ and a slow learner and didn’t know his left from his right.

Their lack of respect for these systems is why they refuse to conform to them because being true to themselves is a higher calling.

I found it interesting that many of these Indigos are drawn to one of the oldest forms of spirituality, whether this is indicative of them being old souls or merely that they resonate with the philosophies of this group.

Knowledge of this still doesn’t give much relief to teachers, law enforcement agencies, or most of all, the families of these Indigos.

After continual circumstances it’s no wonder that siblings especially feel a sense of resentment towards them. They refuse to excuse their bad behaviour any longer. They are confused by the attention that gets placed on them, and their lack of responsibility, so understandably there is a real sense of unfairness that they are causing so much grief to their families.

Siblings don’t have the parental connection to these kids so their solutions are more black and white. They want results, changes, retribution and they want us as parents to make that happen. To look out for them and their wellbeing and stop the disruptions that these Indigos often cause.

To minimize anymore sibling rivalry I was shown the lesson of never comparing one human to another many years ago. I am grateful for this teaching as I have implicated those all important lessons many times.

Put a lightworker, environmentalist and a warrior in the same house and you have a real mixed bag of emotional conflict.

I think the major lesson for the whole family when they have an Indigo in it is about tolerance and unconditional love.

Our job as parents and lightworkers is to teach these Indigos how to interact more passively.  If they want to make change they have to learn to play the game of respect and compassion to be heard.

So if we need to teach these children this lesson we have to practice tolerance and unconditional love with them, which because of their difficult and unruly behaviour isn’t always easy.

All forms of relationship breakdowns are due to communication malfunction.

So even though we as lightworkers, teachers and family members need to help these Indigos through these formative years and help them find their purpose.

That does not mean to enable or condone bad behaviour.  It simply means to never give up on the truth that you already instinctively know, that there is a sensitive heart inside that hurt, angry child, so be conscious of discipline being respectful and consistent without adding to their already strong feelings of feeling ‘alien’.

One further interesting fact that kept arising was that when I was writing this article and I starting talking to a few Indigos, surprisingly enough, many of their names started with the letter ‘J’.

Apart from their sensitivity to chemicals and certain foods I have made several crystal sprays that have had some positive results.  The range is Indigo Peace, Epic Indigos and JCurve.  For those who work with these ones being teachers, carers, or social workers I made Metatrons Mission which enables better communication between the two.

Are we living our life in authenticity?

How many of us can lay claim to that?

Or are we living someone else’s life?

So what does it mean to live authentically?

It’s being true to ourselves, our beliefs, our morals and our values. It’s standing by our principles even when we are in a minority. It’s being courageous enough to speak up and challenge policies even when we know there could be the risk of being ostracized.

What area of our lives do we compromise on?

Is it doing a job that isn’t in alignment with our beliefs? Or worse yet, that the company has unethical policies?

Is it being in a relationship that we know isn’t ideal but we stay for all the wrong reasons?

What people do we allow to cross our personal boundaries? What do we tell ourselves to make this ok? What are we passionate enough about that we would speak up for?

Are we keeping company with certain people that we don’t particularly enjoy their company? Are we being inauthentic with our reasons for keeping these friendships? Perhaps for status, what they can do for us, or who they know?

Are we selling our Souls to the Devil?

Do we know facts about animal testing on cosmetics but choose to ignore? Do we buy caged products thinking that our small contribution won’t make a difference anyway?

When we are not being true to ourselves and not in alignment with our morals, our bodies will suffer.  Being out of alignment means imbalance and imbalance equates to headaches, sinus, insomnia, back, neck and shoulder problems and gastro intestinal problems.

This is not meant to be a persecution or standing on moral judgment. It is merely a wakeup call for us to be more aware of our bodies warning signals as to what is not working for us. When we ignore our inbuilt barometers, then our health will take a nosedive to emphasize the point.

Again, I stress that no one is saying to go out and campaign against injustice, (unless you feel compelled to do so), but to just be true to ourselves and know when we are living out of our integrity & gently pull ourselves back for our own wellbeing.

When we become more accomplished at recognizing when we are out of sync with our ethical and moral boundaries, then we can look past our own personal space and apply those same principles on a larger scale.

If we judge ourselves by others standards we will then make changes based on guilt and then we have created a whole new set of dilemmas for ourselves.

Guilt is a stick for change and whilst it may work short term, we are painfully aware that it is not the motivation behind lasting change.

Following up on my last article on Indigos I would like to reiterate that they possess strong moral compasses. They will stir people up by challenging them. The more they speak up on sensitive issues the more people will get defensive and angry.

The Indigos built in integrity meter refuses to allow themselves to be inauthentic. They will speak up against rules and systems that go against their beliefs. Even though they are thought to be too young to know their own mind, most parents of these kids will attest to how forthright and open they are, often to their own detriment.

It is more painful for them to compromise their integrity than not to live in authenticity.

Throughout time people have been condemned for speaking truths. Speaking about things that some would prefer left alone.

These kids are the change that we have been looking for. They will challenge the systems that aren’t working instead of turning a blind eye.

The following was a message channelled to me from the Indigo Soul

Do not fear us or ostracize us. Do not mould us into YOU because you brought us here to make a difference, not produce more of the same.

We are the change you have longed for and yet we are expected to comply with all that is not serving you.

We need you to remember why you birthed us. We are trying to communicate in a world that is alien to us.

For us to shine, we need to be who we are without censorship or judgment

A Leader Creates a World that others want to belong to

 

I wrote this article in 2011 after the death of my children’s father.  Christmas and holiday time can often resurface old feelings of loss and grief.

At some stage of our lives we will all go through a loss of some description.  Whether it be a loss of a relationship or loss of a loved one through death, the pain in our heart will feel the same; the emptiness and hollowness and proverbial feeling of having a broken heart.

Although I have recently experienced this, I can honestly say there is no blueprint for the stages of grief, nor a time frame attached to each stage.  What I do know is they come in waves and some days we will experience all stages in the same day.

The first stage of SHOCK & DISBELIEF is very anaesthetic.  We function without realising it and run on autopilot.  We can appear to be coping while the anaesthetic is still running through our bodies, but like a true anaesthetic it does wear off and the pain kicks back in.

When the numbness wears off we feel the enormity of the LOSS & PAIN.  We are now feeling the second stage of our grief with all its force.  This stage often feels so painful that it is easy to want to numb ourselves back into the first stage to lessen this.  Alcohol can often be tempting to ease the pain, but in reality, whilst it may take the edge off, the alcohol is a depressant and will only amplify the wounds power.  The feeling of hurt in our chest is likened to the breaking of our hearts.  Some will use this time to overdo using adrenalin to push us forward, whilst some will choose to succumb to the wound and prefer to sleepwalk their way through this stage.

In this stage we also may want to skip to the third stage of ANGER. It feels better than pain and less powerless than numbing. Or does it? The anger is again another mask to attempt to deflect this hurt. It’s another distraction to fend off those feelings that we desperately are trying to avoid. The anger actually feels like we are back in control but this is a false reading. It is merely a deflection, albeit temporary. Avoidance of unwarranted blame is paramount at this stage as permanent damage can be done to relationships. It is important to own our own feelings and not look for a scapegoat to unload our pain onto.

Just when our anger seems to subside a little we are hit by a wave of LONLINESS & DEPRESSION. Here comes stage four. We can become very apathetic and withdrawn and reflective, often wanting to isolate ourselves from others so that we can spend more time with our loved memories. We can become very protective of our precious and treasured memories. Well meaning friends can often feel the wrath of that need to be alone with our thoughts and memories.

Friends and family members are wise to allow this space as it’s an important part of the healing process, and not push too early to a return to the land of the living. The final stage of recovery is an adjustment to a new and different life without our loved one, often having to make some restructuring changes and ACCEPTANCE of the reality of what has occurred.

It is learning to rejoice in the happy memories more and not focusing on the loss. More and more we will be able to talk about our loved one without the overwhelming sadness. Please note that there is no hard and fast rules for any of this process. No one can tell us when it’s time for us to move into another stage. What I would suggest though is, if we find ourselves stuck in one particular cycle of this grief process that we believe to be detrimental, then please know that we are not alone and maybe should seek out group support or professional counseling.

Some tips for handling this time, although may seemingly be pretty obvious, often go by the wayside in times of stress and grief. Firstly, take as good a care of our physical body as possible. Make an effort to nurture ourselves by getting rest and good healthy food choices.

Allow ourselves time to do what feeds our souls. Whether it be sitting in the sun, reading, journaling, writing, being in nature, creative activities like drawing or craft. These activities will put the colour back into our souls.

Don’t try to repress our grief. Repressed emotions have a way of resurfacing at the most inopportune moments without warning.

Allow friends to support us. They are feeling helpless and torn between giving us space and not wanting us to feel like we’ve been deserted.

Whatever our religious or spiritual beliefs are, please take comfort in them at this time and open our heart to the possibility of our loved one still being around us. Ask them for signs, speak to them, write to them. Use whatever comforting means we can to bring us some tranquillity and peace.

Tears can be therapeutic rather than disempowering.  It is a sad time so we need to allow ourselves that time to feel all our emotions without judgment or feeling like we have to run to a schedule of the appropriate time to cry, or laugh or to even to move on with our lives.  Remember everyone deals with pain and loss differently.  Be respectful of others methodologies as hopefully they will ours.

Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our loved ones pour through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.