To Be or Not to Be28.Apr.2013
Ironically this is my first blog and today is my birthday so it seems fitting to celebrate just being on the anniversary of when that was all we were capable of.
As I walk on the beach and listen to the waves, watching how the clouds continually take different shapes, I realise how easy it is to take everything for granted in pursuit of an identity.
Like others, I had brought my headphones and a determination of a fast paced exercise regimen, until I realised I wanted to listen to the waves and greet people and just absorb all the surroundings.
Considering my background in wholistic psychology I have often pondered over the mindset of the workaholics, the gym junkies and the overachievers. What makes so many humans push themselves so hard? For what? What is that elusive prize that so many are reaching for?
How did we get to define ourselves by so many external stimuli whether they be physical or emotional?
Why do we work in jobs that we hate, just to finance cars and houses, especially when so many just look forward to relaxing on a beach or river in very modest dwellings.
Why do we define ourselves by whether we are in a relationship or not just to lose ourselves in the process?
Why do we feel the need to escape our lives by not being present in the now? All these questions are real for many people. Maybe if our lives were simpler and our expectations were kinder of ourselves the ratio of our bliss time would reverse.
I guess the question that came to mind was: How do we measure success? Everyone’s answer may differ but health and happiness I would assume would have to rate fairly high, and yet we sacrifice so often both of these in a false perception of what success is.
The overall message that came through was when we are truly in touch with our feelings and tell ourselves the truth our tastes and lifestyles may be a lot simpler and less stressful than they need to be.
I will continue to enjoy just being, because the more I give myself permission to do what I love, the closer I am to real love. It all starts with me.